The Framework
Clear
→
Consistent
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Contained
1
Clear
Say what you are doing. No games. No mystery manipulation.
Examples:
"I am interested in getting to know you, not just vibing around."
"I would like to take you out on Friday. If that does not work, we can find another day."
2
Consistent
Let your interest show in patterns, not performances.
What this looks like:
- Check in at a realistic rhythm for your life
- Follow through on what you said
- Do not do three intense days then vanish for a week
If you need to pull back due to life:
"This week is heavy for me. I still want to talk to you. I will be a bit quieter, but I am not ghosting."
3
Contained
Pursuit does not mean overrun her life.
Avoid:
- Demanding constant access
- Testing her loyalty early
- Oversharing trauma to fast track intimacy
Aim for:
- "I would like to see you once this week. What day is best?"
- "I enjoy talking, but I do not want to crowd you. Let me know your pace."
Signal That You Are Steady, Not Pushy
You respect "no" and "not yet" without guilt trips
You do not punish her for having boundaries
You can handle delayed replies without spiraling or retaliating
Summary
Clear
State your intention directly
Consistent
Show up in patterns, not bursts
Contained
Respect her space and pace
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